Tuesday, 30 April 2013

Loneliness

Hello and welcome to another blog from myself, trust me when I say that I do spend a lot of time trying to think of what I will be "talking" about next with you guys and I try really hard to think of funny stories but the only funny thing I could really think of were the things the kids in the sports classes I teach say but I'm not sure if that would take up a whole blog post or not. Therefor I have decided to wait until even MORE funny things spill out of their little mouths so that I can share their silliness with you guys. But for now, a serious topic that I have been thinking about a lot lately: loneliness.

Everyone here on earth has experienced a form of loneliness in one way or another, we are not strangers to the feelings, however we often neglect that piece of information and insist that no one really knows how we feel. For example, when I was lonely I didn't want to admit that to people it was almost as if I wanted it to be my own little secret. Ironically this further isolates myself from others because no one knows how I truly feel. But if I (and everyone else that is dealing with it) were more open and honest with ourselves and others and let people know that we are lonely I'm sure people would want to help us out.

For me personally, loneliness comes in the form of being single in a Christian University College. For all you of you people who don't have the joys of knowing what it's like to go to a Christian University or College, I will tell you a little bit of what happens inside. Unlike most universities, people will actually go to a Christian University or College for the sole purpose to find someone to marry (believe it or not, it's true) and this is why the students nickname our school as a Bridal College (instead of Bible College, it's a funny joke so you should probably laugh). This means that all around me are people dating, people proposing, and people marrying. Don't get me wrong, it's nice to see people you know fall in love and talk about a future marriage and seeing other people get married but it comes to a point where it's almost like I wasn't invited to the party, the dating-marriage party. I am Ryan and I like to party (Hot Rod reference anyone?).

I mean I already have a hard time with dating to begin with but now at school it's like there is this added pressure to seriously pursue being in a relationship that is very serious. It gets to the point where it becomes hard being single because it constantly reminds you of how alone you are and how everyone else can find someone to be in a relationship with but you can't (and I don't know about you but that last thought is like a sucker punch to the gonads for me).

I went to a young adult service a couple weeks ago talking about relationships and being single and not only did I find that it perfect fit with what I wanted to hear about but I learned things. I learned how to deal with being single. I learned that I need to realize how fortunate I really am for being single because I don't know if you noticed this but when you're in a relationship you actually have another person to think about and care for (don't get me wrong I like having another person to think about but it is less effort to not have another person). But more importantly I realized again at the truth that there is someone out there for me, and I would rather be single until I meet them than date every person I see before them.

What about you guys? How do you deal with loneliness in your lives and what does that look like for you?

#LifeOfRyan

(Oh and I don't want anyone think I'm a jerk because of my 'not thinking of others' line cause I really am not a jerk)


Thursday, 25 April 2013

Weird Phrases

Wow am I a jerk or what? I totally did not write a blog on Monday like usual, better late than never right? Well nonetheless, I am truely sorry for those of you who were upset and emotionally scarred by my non-posting of a blog.

I was thinking though yesterday that people say a lot of weird things, have you ever noticed how people tend to have like a phrase that they like to say or is that just me? For instance, I say "awks my socks" when I've done something weird. I don't even notice that I say that anymore it just naturally comes out as if this was normal every-day talking, but I realized yesterday when I said it that no one else actually says that cause it's actually weird. And here I was trying to create a saying that was cool cause it rhymed.... fail.

I do have a lot of these things that I say that no one else would ever think of saying like: friggy stix, sweet stix (I guess I just like the word stix), I have even said 'what the flip-flops' before. But everyone who talks to me enough knows that I like to use a certain phrase often, and it's not that I particularly like it, it's just that it applies in my life so often I feel. This phrase is "hold the phone". Like I said before I'm not quite sure why I use that phrase so often but I do. I fully realized that I use that phrase so much when multiple friend groups around me started teasing me about saying that (including my brothers).

What's worse is when I'm hanging with someone I don't really know and all of the sudden I'm talking about something I'm passionate about and then I start using "Ryan-ese" (I coined that term myself believe it or not, it just refers to all the weird things that I say). The other person either laughs at every other word I say just because it's forgein to them (which is weird because we don't laugh at like people who are speaking Manderan because we don't know what they're saying but I guess it's socially acceptable to laugh at what I say), or they look at me as if I'm an alien speaking a different language (this reaction makes more sense to me in my opinion however I am speaking English even if you don't believe so, therefore I don't really like this response that I get).

I probably get these weird catch phrases from my mom cause, if any of you know her you would know that she says weird things at times. At one point I started writing all the one-liners she would come up with on the spot in a day-to-day bases just so that I could publish them in a book. Surprisingly my mom didn't like that idea because she didn't understand that what she said was funny but they really were.

So instead of dragging out this blog post so that I can actually appear as if I have a lot to say on this topic I will finish up here for today. So what about you guys? What things do you say that other's think is weird, or is this just a problem that my mother and I have?

#LifeOfRyan

Monday, 15 April 2013

More Fun Job Stories

So for those of you guys who are avid readers (not quite sure if avid is the right word seen as this is like my fifth post I think) you would know that I have had a bad history with acquiring jobs which have found me going to an acting/modeling agency by mistake (which was a huge scammy place, but I mean why wouldn't they want me just look at me! Well I mean if you see me or my selfies then you would know that I'm not an ugly person so modeling would only make sense). But anyways, that's not my point... not really.

This past week I have been so privileged to acquiring a job, however I would like to share what happened and how I felt through the whole thing.  And yes it is a funny story (at least for me it's funny, it'd be awkward if this story turns into one of those jokes you tell to your friends and no one laughs at it but you; I'm sure it won't because I'm sure there's someone here that I don't know that actually read theses stories about my life and plus this is on a computer so if you don't laugh then I won't know).

Anywhoooo, on Tuesday I received a phone call from this recreation center saying that they were interested in hiring me for a summer camp, I was super excited about working there however they wouldn't start until the end of June and I finish my school year tomorrow (I know, be jealous of me that I start early) so I told them that I would call them back on whether I would be able to work there or not. The next day I went to a Cineplex theater for an interview about a position there.

Don't ask me what position I applied for, not because I'm embarrassed or anything but because I don't know, like actually I just saw online that they had a position open for something and that I was qualified so I applied so I have no idea what the job really was. Anyway I went into the interview feeling pretty confident in myself (maybe too confident I guess cause I do have those moments). And the lady interviewing me looked over my resume (which I think is weird, why do people look over your resume while you're there? Did they not read it online? Is this the first time that they're reading up on me?) and asked me a couple questions starting with my previous employment. And all that went over well, I would answer the question and throw in a joke, she would laugh, I would feel confident, and the cycle would continue. But then she asked about a previous experience that I did not mean to put on my resume.

This will be a detour as to why this piece of information (that I will not tell you yet) was on my resume just so that you are aware as to why. So when I was in grade 9, my dad pretty much got me a job working at the community center by our house however I needed to hand in a resume for official purposes. So my dad helped me out and that summer I went on a missions trip to Vancouver (for those of you who don't know what that is, I went to Vancouver with my church group helping out people there) and so my dad put that on my resume thinking that it would look like I take more initiative and help out the greater community (which is true, but I don't actually do anything currently....).

Anyway so I thought that I deleted that part of my resume simply because I didn't think that secular people would really appreciate what I did back in grade 8. However the lady at Cineplex asked me to talk about my missions trip experience and I was greatly unsure as to how to go about this. And I think I even asked myself out loud as to how that information got onto there... But anyway I ask and it turns out the lady was Christian and she wanted to do a missions trip with her children but her youngest was 11 months (which I told her was understandable that she didn't go on the trip seen as her child would probably be crying and screaming for attention a lot [did not say this to her don't worry; also, kinda cool that I have parenthesis in parenthesis {this is like inception o_O}]).

After discussing about my past, the lady decides to test me on the company policy (which if you know me, or even read my blog, I don't really look that kind of stuff up) and so she asked what I would do if a customer buys popcorn and drops it. I told her that I would get someone else to clean it up (kind of a jerk answer really, being the new guy and already telling people what to do) and then apologize to whoever dropped and tell them that we don't to refills cause I don't wanna pay for their popcorn. As to which the lady corrects me that they do actually give free refills (I then corrected myself and changed my story so that I could give a refill knowing this knowledge). Long story short, I got the job which I was glad about.

However, I then decide to call back the recreation center saying that I would not work for them. And if you have not called back a company because you wanted a different job, let me tell you, it sucks. It's like breaking up with someone: my palms started sweating and I got really nervous and the whole time I wished that the lady on the other end would not pick up the phone so that I could leave a quick voice message and be done with. I was so scared. Luckily I left a voice message so as to alleviate all awkwardness.

However after doing so I found out that they were looking for people to hire for different positions before the camp started which is the only reason why I turned them down which made me feel horrible because I desperately wanted the recreation job back. So I turned from the douche ex-boyfriend to the annoying ex-boyfriend that desperately wants you back: I called and left a message asking for the summer camp job IF I could work in other positions before camp started (I felt horrible for being this demanding but I needed to). Luckily I actually got a job before camp started so in the end my 'ex-boyfriend' status turn into a 'back in the relationship' status and it felt wonderful!

I hope you actually enjoyed this and that this wasn't just me laughing at myself as I was reading this. It's fine if you didn't find it funny, but I am actually really hoping that you do... like real bad... if you find this funny then my confidence goes back up as I explained with my job interview. But it's fine if you don't boost my confidence, that's what Instagram is for with all those hashtags so that random people like my face and my humorous quote that goes with it. Enjoy your week

#LifeOfRyan

Monday, 8 April 2013

Vanilla vs. Chocolate

So throughout this week I was trying to figure out what I could possibly talk about when my friend texted me letting me know about a topic that I should talk about. Vanilla vs. Chocolate ice cream.

I know what you're thinking "Ryan this is stupid why should I care", I'll tell you why: your taste buds are at risk! And in my 15 seconds of researching the web, I am not alone in debating about this topic.

Obviously, chocolate ice cream is better than vanilla there is no arguing that point. However I have a friend who has shown me that there are people out there that actually prefer vanilla ice cream. I would like to tell you people something: your taste buds are broken and you need help! Chocolate is the way to go! It taste a lot better in your mouth than plain old ice cream! If your trying to be healthier in choosing vanilla then go drink milk, it tastes pretty much the same, their both white, and milk is wayyyyy better for you than vanilla ice cream. I do not understand why anyone would choose to want to eat plain ice cream, I mean whenever I get vanilla ice cream what do I do? I put CHOCOLATE syrup on it obviously because I want to taste something deliciously awesome!

This brings me to my next point that I would like to make. For desserts like cake people put syrups on them to enhance the flavor. I bet that you've had chocolate syrup because everyone knows that it tastes amazing, but how many people put vanilla syrup on it? For my vanilla ice cream I try to make it better by putting chocolate syrup on it but when someone gets chocolate ice cream, I have never heard of someone asking: "Umm excuse me? Sorry but could I get some vanilla syrup on my ice cream?" NO! You know why? Cause no one puts vanilla syrup on anything including ice cream! Why would we not have vanilla syrup if why have chocolate syrup? Because chocolate is obviously better than ice cream!

Now you may be tempted to produce the argument that ice cream is different than the syrup but you know what? You would be very silly for thinking such a thing! Why? Because both are dessert-type-thingys and therefore they are both in the same category. It's like saying that I only like the color purple on t-shirts, but when it's on other pieces of clothing I think the color purple is distasteful and ugly. People don't say that because that's weird, if you like the color purple on t-shirts then you will probably like the same color purple for other clothes. If chocolate syrup is better then vanilla syrup then chocolate ice cream is better than vanilla ice cream. It's just logical!

But I do know that there are poor unfortunate souls who are stuck believing that vanilla ice cream is better than chocolate. For you people, I recommend counseling sessions and therapy because obviously you were hit in the face with chocolate ice cream as a baby and now have a subconscious aversion to it. You need to be healed and to get past this in your life. Do not worry, I will continue to be your friend/ blogger-person-type-friend but I cannot support this lifestyle that you choose to live. You should repent and turn away for this lifestyle that you are indulging in.

Please leave comments as to how your therapy goes, I would love to know how much I am helping you people see the light!

#LifeOfRyan

Monday, 1 April 2013

Serious Note

So I was trying to find another funny story that happened to me recently (so that I would have something to talk/write to you guys about). But I couldn't find anything (sorry guys I guess sometimes I'm not always funny) but seen as the title to the blog is #LifeOfRyan, I realized that I do have serious moments in my life. So I thought it would make sense to write about something serious every once and a while and see what feedback I get from you guys. Plus, as far as you know, I could be making up these funny stories about my life and so as proof that I'm not making them up, I don't have funny story to share about my stupidity.

But then what shall I talk about? Well this week a bunch of friends and I were talking about a very important topic that has been hot on the press for a while. Hot on the press.... I feel like people don't really say that, I may have gotten that saying wrong but nonetheless I'm sure you know what I mean. Anywho.... everyone, get your oven mitts on cause this topic is hot (like hotter than me ;) ) the topic is homosexuality and religion.

A lot of people are all up in arms about this topic: "is it a sin?" "is it natural?" "is there a 'cure?'" "do they have a mating call?" Ok well maybe the last question no one asks cause it's a pretty stupid question but the other questions are legitamate questions that people have been asking regarding homosexuality. To make things even more confusing, everyone seems to have a different idea regarding homosexualtiy - including Christians! 

Yes even Christians are in disagreement about whether homosexuality is ok, natural, and whether it should be accepted. The Bible holds a couple different verses about this topic, for the sake of time, my writing, and out of sheer boredom at times, I will not list or discuss about all the different verses. However, when you first read the verses it seems pretty compelling as to the fact that homosexuality is a sin, however there are Christians (I myself am included) that believe that if you really look into the cultural context and original writing that you will find that it is not a sin.

Make no mistake, I am not here to talk to you about how I am completely right and people who think homosexuality is a sin are bigots (because I don't think they all are). But I would like to share how there are different perspectives and that we should not take someone else's opinion for face value. One thing I do not like are people who will believe something for no reason. Once I asked someone why they thought homosexuality was wrong and their answer was "because my pastor said so". That my friends (or fellow readers not sure what to call you really) is an ignorant opinion because then your pastor could tell you to be like the Talibans and you would believe that he is right.

Further, I would say that gay people should be allowed to marry and have children legally, I see nothing wrong with that. I personally do not see how two people of the same gender affects your marriage (unless seeing too people of the same gender marry turns you on and then your spouse thinks you're cheating on them and then divorces you, then I can see how that affects your marriage). But on the flip side, I don't see why gay people need to have every church in Canada allow them to get married, we are all entitled to our own opinions and values and even if you don't agree the with "Church's" position you should at least respect it. Besides there are enough churches that practice gay weddings.

What's your opinion? What do you think? Is homosexuality a sin? Should we allowed gay marriage and them having children or ban it altogether? Do you think it's natural or learned? Let me know what you think!

#LifeOfRyan